WHO SAID I WANTED TO BE YOUR 'BABY MAMA'?

The effrontery!
I mean what gave you the right to label me,'Baby Mama'. What happened to single mother or other worthy substitutes.Who said I wanted to be your 'Baby Mama'?
A couple of weeks ago,I was at a function and I heard a guy bragging to his friends that he was not interested in settling down with any woman (this I didn't fault). But then,he went on to say he would find himself a fair beautiful lady with smashing curves,impregnate her and get the kid,just like that! It took every discipline my loving mother instilled in me to not stand up,get in the guy's face and........oh well,you know the rest. Apart from the above mentioned discipline,the guy in question happens to be a bulky guy and I sincerely didn't want to be beaten within an inch of my life.(craziness has limits you know).
Anyway,back to the topic,why is it becoming so much of a trend that we no longer hide it. While growing up,if an aunt should get pregnant out of wedlock,she would be disgraced,ostracized maybe banished and definitely used as cautionary tale for the younger ones. Now,I am very much aware that the world is changing and things are not the way they were years back,but has that given these guys the impunity to pick a girl at random because of her physical attributes. These girls not knowing they have been chosen like mares for stallions,go into the relationship,get pregnant and then,shit gets real.The 'celebrities' are definitely not helping matters as we continue to adulate those who have up to three 'Baby Mamas' or more,seeing them as our role models.Guys,all I am saying is be a man,sit down and have that talk with the lady.Do not just go ahead and impregnate her without knowing her plans just for your own selfish purpose.
To the ladies,stop crying wolf when it happens because if you are old enough to be having sexual relations,then you should be old enough to take necessary precautions.It is not enough to leave the condom procurement for the guys,get up,go out and get yours.And if you are interested in having a baby out of wedlock,it should be YOUR choice, not a situation you found yourself. Lastly, do not be okay with being referred to as some dude's 'Baby Mama'
PS:Do not forget to drop your opinions in the comments section below.
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Body Count Syndrome

Years ago on twitter, I had the pleasure of witnessing a quarrel that apparently happened all because a certain lady refused to disclose her body count to her current partner who then came on Twitter to troll her.

For those of your who are anti-twitter or social media, Body Count Syndrome is the belief on social media about the number of people an individual has had sexual intercourse with;in plain english,the number of people you have slept with.

This reminds me fondly about the reply I gave one of my friends when she asked me what I would say if my partner asked me my body count.My then young and seriously immature brain said I would simply tell him the truth.

Hahahhaha,how young and stupid I was!

After much growing up and understanding the mind of men and women alike,I have come to the conclusion that if you are my ex,then we never happened.Meaning I simply have no body count!

A lot of you reading this will say,hanhan,Tope,that is a lie nah...Oh well,bite me!

In the beginning of the relationship,what people refer to as the honeymoon phase,we are so blinded by lust and all the yummy feelings that we cannot wait to just unburden our souls to that one person who we feel will be our soulmate.As a result we lower our guards,say to hell to well honed defense systems we have put in place and just open our emotion-addled brain and sprout all the secrets we have held close overtime.Now fast forward a few months or years if you are lucky,the honeymoon phase is gone and you are left with the realness,the core and what happens,insults are traded,hurtful words are thrown around and gbam! You are judged in the present by the past you have divulged.

Holup holup! I am not advocating keeping secrets in relationships but why would you reveal what wouldn't hurt your partner anyway..I mean why?

My conclusion is this,if you are going to reveal your BC to someone,be careful who you choose.I am sure you don't want your BC a topic on Twitter!

It is your business and if you are going to make it another person's, be sure they have earned the right to!

Ps:Remember to drop your views in the comments section.

FROM THE ASHES OF TEMPORARY JOBLESSNESS.......

I am not a writer.
In fact keeping diaries was never my thing.I cannot count the number of diaries I have discarded.
It is really nothing dramatic,at least not to me.The thought of putting pen to paper day after day just tires me.Which begs the question:why do I have a blog?
You see,all my life,I have always had a job of some kind.From ushering jobs to hosting events to working as an OAP in a radio station,then on to being an internet marketer,business developer and finally a presenter/producer/manager for a TV channel.Its been one worry and the next,never a moment to be a free lady with nary a worry.

A couple of years ago,a friend of mine,Bisola asked me to come write on her blog (theavidskeptic.blogspot.com),lets just say I got cold feet for lack of a better phrase and offered the excuse that I was super busy (covers face)

Anyway,I recently took a few weeks break from work due to some personal reasons and found myself with a lot of time on my perfectly manicured fingers.My brain then clicked on a seemingly innocent comment my friend,Funmi (also a blogger,check thefullfiguredfemale.blogspot.com) dropped under one of my posts on Instagram saying with the storied details I write under my posts,I should consider starting a blog,added to my recent obsession with the american series:Awkward,I decided to give it  try.
It has been said that I am stubborn and strong headed which means I won't stop writing here.
This blog will be diary of my thoughts,my views,my opinions and most especially gossip I wish to share with the public.
I welcome you all to my blog and I hope it will be as much, if not more fun than I envisaged.