WOULD YOU TELL?

 

Hey guys! 

 

 

 

It has been a while since I last posted a piece and as much as I have many excuses up my sleeve, the truth is I have been plain lazy (coversface). It hasn't entirely been my fault though; I have been out of the country for almost two months on what was supposed to be a vacation/discovery period, but I am having a really difficult time being idle. I spend my days shopping, hanging out with friends and relatives. And my nights, I sleep the sleep of the dead (I insist, it ain't my fault!)

 Anyway, how have you guys been? I mean, Christmas is knocking on the door and the New year celebrations will follow; I hope you have all your gifts wrapped for the gift exchange on Christmas Day? I feel different about this holiday. Asides the fact that it's the first time I would be spending the new year celebrations so far from home, I have been anticipating the snow season in this freaking place and it just wouldn't come! Bush girl like me! It's like some bad voodoo, the more I hope and pray for it, the warmer the weather gets. So I don't have a lot of faith in this Christmas been a blast.

 

 

As I mentioned earlier, I have so much free time on my hands now and with the year coming to an end, I can't seem to stop myself from reminiscing about the past. My thoughts happened to settle on a particular incident that happened almost a decade ago. I was a pre-degree student of Obafemi Awolowo University when I heard a story about a group of close girlfriends. One of the friends had a boyfriend who was cheating on her steady and all the other friends knew this. Apparently, the girl had no idea her boyfriend was a serial cheat and the question was whether to tell or not.

 

 

 

 

One of the most difficult things in life is seeing the light of hope and innocence die in a loved one's eyes. It simply breaks your heart to be the harbinger of bad news and most times the messenger is always injured. That said, it is also very disheartening to be told the truth by outsiders when you have friends you believe should have been looking out for you. In such instances, you feel like a fool and the harrowing sense of loneliness overwhelms you.
For this reason, should I find myself in such a scenario, I will carefully consider the psyche of my friend, the closeness between us and the love I have in my heart for her. As long as it isn't false information, then telling such truth to a dear friend is my responsibility. And if being the infamous herald of bad news is the price to pay, I will gladly write a fat cheque of what I like to call save-a-girl-from-a-cheating-ass-trash-man. And here's the thing, telling a dear friend would seem like the natural thing to do if they mean so much to you,without malice or the 'I told you he was a 'fuckboy' attitude most girls put on when they hear stuff like that.  Just a simple gesture of friendship and looking out for each other.
On the other hand, if your relationship with your friend is tenuous at best or you know in your heart that she cannot handle it, or she's just going to find a way to make you take blame for her Man's doings, then girlfriend, just shift to one side and shut your mouth. I mean, the relationship lacks depth and substance and you want to open your mouth and tell her that her boyfriend is cheating? Ha, I pity you! At best, your 'friendship' is over and worst, you will be labelled boyfriend snatcher, relationship destroyer, enemy of progress among many of such names.
If you feel guilty or your conscience won't let you rest, my friend use ice-cream to drown the guilt and move on (I personally would recommend suya and a cold bottle of malt). It is sincerely none of your business and not everyone is worth losing sleep over. 

Alright guys, you know the drill already. Do not forget to leave your opinions in the comment section. I love feedbacks!

Merry Christmas darlings......