The effrontery!
I mean what gave you the right to label me,'Baby Mama'. What happened to single mother or other worthy substitutes.Who said I wanted to be your 'Baby Mama'?
A couple of weeks ago,I was at a function and I heard a guy bragging to his friends that he was not interested in settling down with any woman (this I didn't fault). But then,he went on to say he would find himself a fair beautiful lady with smashing curves,impregnate her and get the kid,just like that! It took every discipline my loving mother instilled in me to not stand up,get in the guy's face and........oh well,you know the rest. Apart from the above mentioned discipline,the guy in question happens to be a bulky guy and I sincerely didn't want to be beaten within an inch of my life.(craziness has limits you know).
Anyway,back to the topic,why is it becoming so much of a trend that we no longer hide it. While growing up,if an aunt should get pregnant out of wedlock,she would be disgraced,ostracized maybe banished and definitely used as cautionary tale for the younger ones. Now,I am very much aware that the world is changing and things are not the way they were years back,but has that given these guys the impunity to pick a girl at random because of her physical attributes. These girls not knowing they have been chosen like mares for stallions,go into the relationship,get pregnant and then,shit gets real.The 'celebrities' are definitely not helping matters as we continue to adulate those who have up to three 'Baby Mamas' or more,seeing them as our role models.Guys,all I am saying is be a man,sit down and have that talk with the lady.Do not just go ahead and impregnate her without knowing her plans just for your own selfish purpose.
To the ladies,stop crying wolf when it happens because if you are old enough to be having sexual relations,then you should be old enough to take necessary precautions.It is not enough to leave the condom procurement for the guys,get up,go out and get yours.And if you are interested in having a baby out of wedlock,it should be YOUR choice, not a situation you found yourself. Lastly, do not be okay with being referred to as some dude's 'Baby Mama'
PS:Do not forget to drop your opinions in the comments section below.
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6 comments:
As you rightly said its a matter of choice. Some people choose to be parents out of wedlock and some find themselves being single mothers because they have been jilted and do not want to abort. Calling these women your baby mamas is derogatory to say the least. Think what we should preach is every lady knowing the stakes before going into any relationship and also having the ability to make the right decision for herself. Good writeup Tope.
See ehn,you spoke my mind! (I was still discussing this issue with my Sister last night! Using Flavour as a case study) It is extremely annoying and saddening how some females have made the game too easy for these guys! As if being a side chick.wasn't enough,.. (what the fuck is that by the way?) you had to drag an innocent child into ur mess of uncertainty. If as a female, you do not see yourself as person of value, there's no way in hell you'll produce a thing of value. That term baby mama gets me livid! When will women wake up to reality and come to the knowledge of how powerful they are!!!!
Exactly!!!
Thanks darling
The side chick issue is definitely a topic for another day,I mean how low can your spirit get that you would accept to play the second or third fiddle to a puny ass man?
Thank you darling!!!!
So many girls with extreme self esteem issues are partly the cause of the whole bullshit. What a generation!! I cannot wait for the side chick piece #Anticipate
I know women who are perfectly fine with being baby mamas. They are almost as disinterested in marriage as the men tope talks about. So are we allowed to call those ones proud baby mamas?
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