Hey guys,I know it has been a while since I last put up a blog post. I have had so much on my plate that most times I just jot down things I want to write about and forget the put them up.
Anyway the reason I am putting up a blog post very different from what I usually do is because of a write up my friend put up on bbm.(see below)
After seeing this,I flashed back on my Uni days, this is a real story.While in the Uni,I got a lot of rumors and stories being bandied about me,so much that at a point I thought I had a twin I didnt know about. Out of the many rumors,the one that shocked me on every level was when someone told my boyfriend that I was a 'runz girl'. In fact this person gave 'actual'testimonies that were so believable.I was angry at first,then I started doubting myself in every manner.I felt I was probably giving those vibes with the way I dressed,walked,talked,laughed or socialized.It was simply crazy!As if that wasn't enough,a very close friend was told that I wasn't even a student,that I was just in school to keep up appearances.Crazy hunh?On the other side,there are people I have heard a lot of sordid stories about them that I shamelessly believed.It was wrong,it was unjustly,It was unfair.Because of how hurt and confused I felt when it concerned me,I am now investing much energy into learning how to know people for who they are and not for what they are said to be.I can tell you that it is not so easy,infact with some people you would wish you didn't spend so much energy finding out who they are.But for the few good hearted people who could get easily misjudged,it is a necessary habit.After so many of these purported stories,I then realized that people will talk about you whether you give them reason to or not.Yours is to make sure you do not confirm any negative or untrue stories about you. You can also join me in this self imposed journey on learning how to not judge people based on rumors.You can start by checking what you really know about your so-called 'arch-enemy',you could have been misled unknowingly.
PS:If you have any stories about the topic,do not forget to drop them in the comments section.
7 comments:
I totally agree to that quote. People layer one 'I heard and they said' kind of manipulation on top of another, either bcos u r better or u do not associate urself with them,crap! For me as a person, I blv its not right to accept what other people tell you abt a person whom u haven't related with. I wont be narrating those stories I hrd. Tope, U are awesome!....#AZ
We can only hope to learn new things about wonderful people every day.
Thanks Az...
Girl. This was what i was discussing with a colleague earlier today. Someone we know is i. The habit of painting everyone and anyone in a bad light and i just couldn't take it anymore! If ur insides are ugly, it damn right will reflect on the outside. Most times people say stupid shit just so they can "feel among" or they feel they need to talk. I know of this guy who would tell u .he knows who has slept with a particular girl when in the actual fact, he has never even seen the girl before. That shit is too annoying!
I totally agree with you,this world is small and we all gotta be careful what comes out of our mouths.
Lol,the typos are very welcome!
Al in well, People will always talk and think what is not... It doesn't matter anyway... it doesn't change who I am
Al in well, People will always talk and think what is not... It doesn't matter anyway... it doesn't change who I am
The caption says it all for me too Tope.u never say never wt anyone until u get a personal dose of who they are..
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